Breaking Habits (And Making New Ones)

It’s a new year, and I think it’s high time I start breaking some bad habits
and start implementing new ones in my life.

“We become what we want to be, by consistently being what we want to become each day.” – Richard G. Scott

 

SLEEP HABITS
I want to break the habit of staying up late, sitting up in bed and using my phone/laptop.
I’m not getting enough sleep as it is, and I know this makes it worse. It’s a habit I’m struggling to break, but I’m working on it. Not only does it hurt my eyes and I can feel them drooping and aching, but also, I know I’ll feel like a zombie in the morning.

 

PICKING AT MY SKIN / NAILS
When I become anxious (and let’s face it – that’s basically all the time), I tend to pick a lot of my skin around my nails, often without realising it. I notice my fingernails becoming sore and red after a while, and looking rather unattractive.
It’s a form of self-harm, and it’s something I want to stop.

 

SECOND-GUESSING
I second-guess about everything and I doubt myself, even when I know I’m on the right path. I recently found this out whilst driving. When I know I’m doing pretty great,
I often think things are going too well. I panic and screw up. This is generally how I am in life, and I want to break the habit of doubting myself. I know my stuff…
I just need to do it and have confidence in my ability.

 

FEELING GUILTY.
I feel unnecessary guilt about a lot of things. I try to people-please.
I end up burning myself to keep others warm. It’s something I’ve got to stop doing.
I need to start doing things which I feel are right for me, regardless of anyone’s opinions and feelings. I feel really mean about it. I feel selfish, horrible, guilty,
but if my gut is telling me something, then I need to listen and trust it.

 

GOING TO THE GYM
Oh looky here, another “new year, and I’m going to the gym and eating healthy” kind of shit;
But here’s something I thought I’d never say in a million years;
Just before Christmas, I had begun going to the gym and getting fit.
I actually did it, instead of whizzing past it and ending up going to McDonald’s.
I enjoyed it, too, and I actually want to make a habit of doing this. I want to be good at waking up and keeping active, for my mental health mostly. It’s also to boost my confidence and get used to being in social environments.

 

THINKING ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE
I always wonder what others may think of me, and this makes me terribly anxious
when I’m out and about – even in my own home. I’m so paranoid, it’s ridiculous.
It’s one of the biggest habits I want to break – one which I’ve been doing for a very long time. When I’m out and about, I wonder whether people are looking at me and judging.
I want to be able to focus less on them, and more on myself.

 

MAKING EXCUSES
So another habit is saying I’ll do something, and never end up doing them.
“I’ll do it tomorrow, this weekend, next week.” I end up procrastinating till it’s too late. Excuses are what I hate hearing from other people, so I hate that I’m doing it myself. I get great ideas, but when it comes to actually doing them, I back down. I’ve become too comfortable staying at home, and missing out on opportunities. I want to change this.
I want to break the habit of saying “Maybe, I’ll think about it”, to
“Yes, absolutely I’ll come.”

 

“If you always think and never do, YOU’LL NEVER ACCOMPLISH.”

40 Comments

  1. Good luck on this. We all have bad habits and I am constantly trying to improve myself. Right now, I am focusing on quitting picking. This lifelong habit that is harder to quit than smoking ever was. I don’t have to go out of the way to buy something to pick or go somewhere special to pick. I am at three weeks today. Just read a book that had a chapter on breaking habits. and it seems to be helping.

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  2. Omg, I can totally relate with the ‘feeling guilty’ one. I mean, I want to help people, but it’s leaving me very stressed and exhausted at the end of each day, but when I try to take time to myself, I feel guilty for shunning my friends… I guess it’s one of those introvert struggles. πŸ˜›

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  3. Thank you! I hope you manage to stop completely, and take care of yourself. I get what you mean; People can make such a fuss, but it’s better than not caring at all. I think admitting it to myself helped a lot.

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  4. This is actually a great idea. I also pick at my skin, now I finally stopped but it comes back. I normally considered it as my way of “self-harm” too but I always thought that it’s ridiculous and kind of inappropriate to say it, because someone might take it personally, so I never told anyone about it. Thank you for this, I’m sure you can do all of them.

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  5. I’m guilty of all these habits! I even thought of rubbing Vick’s vapo rub on my finger nails to quit chewing. Thanks for sharing, you’re not alone!😊

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  6. Thank you so much! It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this! Best wishes to you too. I hope you realise your worth and break the habit of second guessing πŸ˜ŠπŸ’ž

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  7. Thank you so much for your comment. I hope you manage to shake of these habits. It DOES take so much time and effort, but all worth it to become the best version of ourselves πŸ’ Good to hear you work on them everyday! I’m struggling to even do that πŸ˜…

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  8. Thank you for this, these are things that I also struggle with myself. Especially second guessing myself, focusing too much on pleasing other people and feeling guilty. It’s hard to shake, and I think it takes a lot of practice and self reflection to break these kinds of habits. Something I try to work on everyday!

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  9. Ohh they truly are!
    Haha my phone is my alarm clock so I actually need it on at night, I just use my do not disturb feature. But yeah it’s one of those rare cases if someone were to call you in need πŸ˜‚
    And thanks, me too πŸ˜‚ good luck to us both πŸ™‚

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  10. Such a tiresome lifestyle when they’re difficult habits to break, right?
    I considered turning my phone off at night, but then I thought what if someone called in an emergency… Hell, no-one contacts me during the day, let alone at night! πŸ˜‚
    I hope you manage to break some of these habits; And if not, I hope you manage to be at peace with yourself ❣

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  11. I feel you with most of these habits! I have similar bad habits. I’ll stay up and look at my phone even though I’m exhausted and need sleep. I have 1001 excuses for not going somewhere. I pick at my nails. I second guess myself all the time, and I realized most of the time I was right the first time. And I feel guilty, too, over things I can’t control. Why do we torture ourselves like that?

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  12. Great post, some very relatable points listed. Whatever habits we need to improve on we must be mindful that the changes would not happen overnight so we must not be too hard on ourselves. Habits are learnt behaviour that we acquire over time and therefore we must give ourselves TIME to adjust and improve as well. Take care my dear, best wishes to you as you improve on these areas one day at a time. πŸ™‚

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  13. Thank you so much! I hope you manage to break some of yours, too. We’ve got this! =)
    And you’re right, I know these things can time, so I’m trying not to get ahead of myself so much, haha. It’s taken me years to even acknowledge them.

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  14. Keeping active definitely helped me sleep better at night – I need to take it up again. Yes, self-love is massively important. Though, I can’t help but feel guilty for neglecting others.

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  15. That’s a good list in my book. Especially the parts about a healthy routine (it’s helping me much to have regular meal/sleep times) and the part about self-love. It comes first. Only then you can do something for others.

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  16. Great ideas of habits to break. I can relate to a few that I need to break myself. Especially number 1, the hubby and I both need to work on sleeping more and on more of a regular schedule. I am not a huge phone person, I really just use it for games so I am guilty of that. I stay up late on my laptop all the time, playing sims, checking my blog, writing etc into the wee hours of the night. My hubby has a video gaming habit. We both need to break our habits and get to bed earlier. I also constantly pick at my skin and still bite my nails and knuckles sometimes. Especially when anxious, but been trying to trim my nails more with clippers. It depends on the week. :/ I am continuing my work out exercise and amping them out so I got that going for me still. The other ones I can kinda relate to as well, I am famous for making excuses and it needs to stop. I hope you can successfully break these habits or some in the new year. Don’t beat yourself up too much though if you can’t always succeed. The first step is to try to find helpful and creative ways to break them and implement them as much as you can. But at the end of the day we are still human. πŸ™‚ And it is especially harder for people like you and me to stay on top of everything all the time. But I believe in you and you can do it! πŸ™‚

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