What Went Wrong?

We used to talk for hours on end – nobody could shut us up. Why did we stop?
Don’t tell me life got in the way and that things have become hectic, because that hadn’t stopped us before. I can feel the distance between us; We were absolute soulmates – and now? On the verge of becoming strangers.
I try and reach out – but the excitement’s gone. The
having-something-good-happen-to-us-and-we’ve-got-to-tell-eachother-immediately feeling has gone. What happened? What went wrong? When did things become so cold?

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  1. Sometimes it’s not that I grew to dislike the person, but that the friendship started to feel extremely forced. I cut off a friendship some months back because of this although it wasn’t a “best friend” relationship.

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  2. I can relate to those words so much. It’s really sad but sometimes it’s the better to move on. You wrote it so beautifully. It’s hard but we have to let go and move on

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  3. It’s sad but I can totally relate to that.
    But I guess this has taught me great lessons too in my life.
    Not everybody is going to be there forever only the true ones will stand the test of the time.
    The world is ours. Be yourself and the right kind of people will always love you.
    Wish you lot’s of love and luck.

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  4. You begin to wonder whether this will be it for the rest of your life, right? Even when I do make friends, I tend to think it’s not going to last very long… I hope you manage to connect with new people and feel OK again. ❤

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  5. I guess it’s easier when you know they’ve been toxic to you. That’s also so important to remember whenever you feel lonely and want them back. I’m doing OK. I guess people leaving me has made me focus on myself now, so that’s good! Onwards and upwards. Lol. 😅❤

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  6. I am… it’s just sad that this has become so common in my world, and it’s sad with a few people in particular how close we were at one time, or at least how close I thought we were, only to not know each other at all anymore.

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  7. Yeah, no, I have new friends and they’re really bomb. I’m pretty chill with my old friend but can’t ask her the reason.

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  8. You are welcome! Something good will come out of it. I am doing good, thank you for asking. To be honest I’m burning up lol it’s hot outside today and we don’t have central air! 😩😭

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  9. It’s sad how many people can relate to this (me included). sometimes people grow apart, but that could always lead to something new, something perhaps equally as good. Although it is also important to keep all the great memories!

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  10. Hey my love ♡
    Just wanted to pass by and say that I’ve nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award! Congrats ♡ Please take a moment to read through this 🙂

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  11. Yeah :/ but I keep my head up! Like I say: “Enjoy the good times and cheerfully endure the bad ones.”

    I’m not exactly sure if I came up with this, but I try live by it!

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  12. Damn. I really feel you with that feeling of telling someone when something really cool or good has happened to you, yet you’re at a point with that person where you just don’t want to do it or you don’t feel as excited as you used to.

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  13. So sad but so relatable at the same time. Sometimes things end so that we can make room for the better that’s yet to come. It doesn’t mean you can’t hold onto to fond memories. Life’s just like that…we grow up or we grow apart or both. It’s not always a bad thing actually

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  14. It’s the absolute worst when we’re just left with thoughts and our minds go over every little thing to do with them. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been through this. I hope you were able to move on and are doing OK. ❤

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  15. Recently experienced something like this and I must say it’s the worst, you feel the space gets really wide, the long silence and it’s just really sad because nothing happened. I guess the only thing is to move on no matter how hard it gets, absolutely necessary for one’s sanity.

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  16. I think we all have different definitions of what a soulmate is – which is OK. Personally, I think we can have relationships with many soulmates at different stages of our lives – each one is no less meaningful, “rare”, or better than the other, as each one teaches us to be better. I appreciate your comment and views.

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  17. It’s worse when you’re left wondering, don’t you think? It’s an awful feeling, and sorry that you can relate! I hope things are going good for you, Ally, or at least I hope they will be soon. ❤

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  18. I understand that relationships are not all happiness, but comes with challenges which one should be willing to go through. Unfortunately, it has gone beyond fighting and holding on, and the time’s come to walk away and find new challenges. Thank you for your comment. ❤

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  19. I can totally relate, coz this happened to me too, but I seriously am still left wondering. So sad it happened to you xx

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  20. Life happens. It has happened to me and many people I know closely so don’t question your choice of people or why you invested that much in a relationship that’s not gonna stand by your side for I have questioned myself and it feels pathetic. It all comes down to wishing each other on birthday, anniversary, new year etc. I understand when someone plays a significant part in your life and just vanishes because change of college, change of city, change of job, marriage, having kids it leaves behind a vacuum and we fail to understand why and how but that’s life. I have seen friends turning into competitors, enemies, strangers, those who talk behind your back, everything. I am now very skeptical about making friends and investing emotionally in people not because I am bitter or some thing but after a point and a series of such events I stopped seeing the whole point behind making friends. I hope you accept the reality and understand that it has nothing to do with you or your friend, it’s life.

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  21. Sorry you’re going through this. I’m actually experiencing the same. It’s very painful. I hope it all works out for you. ❤

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  22. I know what’s it like to feel the distance between someone you love and yourself. It’s an unbearable feeling but truthfully, it’s all for a reason. Hoping you see better days soon.

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  23. A soulmate is never lost nor gone. There is no time, no distance, nothing which can really separate souls which are “born” for each other. And a soulmate seems to be a lesson too. A lesson for you to learn something…even to be without him or her. Soulmates don’t only mean to be happy af with each other – they bring challenges with it and with yourself. Do you accept the challenge of your life with help of your soulmate? Do you still fight?

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  24. You’re so welcome hun! We’re still together and trying to work on things, trying to bring those old days back! You first take care of number one – that’s you – so you’ll be healthy mind and body! xoxoxo

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  25. I shall be focusing solely on myself for now, thank you!! I really hope you work things out with your friend and get the old spark back – and if not, I hope it will at least be the start of something better. 🙂 ❤

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  26. Oh Diana, your comment has made me emotional! 😅 So heart warming and I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to share your thoughts. It’s one of those days I’m not feeling the greatest and I’m questioning every friendship I’ve ever had. No regrets, but it’s disappointing when they turn out to be everything they said they wouldn’t be. 24 years is pretty amazing, though I’m sorry to hear it grew stale in the end. I guess I just need to hang in there, feel this sadness until it subsides and hope that something good is on the way. Thank you so much for your comforting words. It really does mean everything to me! ❤

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  27. Oh no, sorry to hear this, so sad. I’ve been there too hun. I’m hoping for you there’s a chance to connect again. What was once there can still be there, it doesn’t have to go away. I don’t know why these things happen to people. Many reasons it could be. I’ve been with someone for 24 years and we couldn’t get enough of each other at first. Over time, that excitement turns into comfort yet sometimes it can grow stale. Sometimes outsiders nose into relationships and create confusion. Relationships are give and take, some need a little work, but it’s hard when they need a lot of work. Sorry to dump all this on you, I’m just speaking of experiences of sadness too. Hang in there sweetie, I hope something good turns out for you in the end, you certainly deserve something good. We’re all here for you! xoxo

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  28. I am sorry that you have to go through this with someone who means a lot to you. Keeping my fingers crossed that you will reconnect again and that you get some answers to your questions. Take good care and hang in there.

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